MY WAY Will Not Work (James 4:7-12)

Notice the verbs in James 4:7-10. "Submit," "resist," "come," "wash," "purify," "grieve," "mourn," "wail," "change," and "humble yourselves." These verbs suggest that "I did it my way" or "my way or the highway" is NOT a wise way to live. It is certainly not the way to live under the blessing of God.

• Trials are Beneficial (Overview of James). Suffering is good for you!

1. Horrible Days (1:1-4). The Way to Maturity and Wholeness.
2. How to Know What's Going On (1:5-12). A Prayer that God is Always Happy to Answer.
3. When Trials Become Temptations (1:13-21). God Never Tempts Anyone.
4. Self-Deceived Christians (1:22-27). When Reading and Studying the Bible Makes You Worse.
5. Showing Favoritism (2:1-13). Trust God rather than show favoritism toward influential people.
6. True Faith and Loving Deeds (2:14-26). Loving others--amid our own difficulties and trials--always accompanies true faith.
7. Lashing Out Verbally at Others (3:1-12). If you think you have to teach others, it's better to shut up!
8. The Wise and the Selfishly Ambitious (3:13-18). You can't be wise if you are selfishly motivated.
9. Infighting in the Church (4:1-6). Being upset with others may not be the fault of others.

Infighting in the Church (James 4:1-6)

Why do we not like certain people? Why are there fights and quarrels, some rather bitter and longstanding, even in the holy church of God?

• Trials are Beneficial (Overview of James). Suffering is good for you!

1. Horrible Days (1:1-4). The Way to Maturity and Wholeness.
2. How to Know What's Going On (1:5-12). A Prayer that God is Always Happy to Answer.
3. When Trials Become Temptations (1:13-21). God Never Tempts Anyone.
4. Self-Deceived Christians (1:22-27). When Reading and Studying the Bible Makes You Worse.
5. Showing Favoritism (2:1-13). Trust God rather than show favoritism toward influential people.
6. True Faith and Loving Deeds (2:14-26). Loving others--amid our own difficulties and trials--always accompanies true faith.
   
7. Lashing Out Verbally at Others (3:1-12). If you think you have to teach others, it's better to shut up!
8. The Wise and the Selfishly Ambitious (3:13-18). You can't be wise if you are selfishly motivated.
   

What causes us to be angry, to fight and to have quarrels?

An obvious answer, as we think of the person or situation, is because "he/she did this or that," "this is what they're like," "this is what they're done," "this is what they said and decided." We're angry, or dislike people, because of some action or words on their part.

But James says that the reasons for our resentments and quarrels (especially during times of trials and difficulties, which seems to accentuate and aggravate everything!) are much more profound and penetrating than "other people are the cause of my problems" and "they are making life hard for me." James basically says that when we're angry and upset with other people, the reasons are primarily in us--not others. If we're going to come through our trials to the righteousness, maturity, completeness (Jas 1:2-4) and crown of life that God has in mind for us (Jas 1:12), we must understand what is really at the heart of our conflicts with others, even or especially in the church.

James asks and answers that the cause of infighting is with us and that there are several reasons:

First, our own desires are being denied. "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight" (Jas 4:1-2a) The cause of our fights and quarrels is some self-centered desire that wants to prevail. There is "me, my, mine" that is being insisted on. There's something we want and we aren't getting it. Our desires, wants, are being frustrated, thwarted, denied and we see the other person as being responsible. So we're angry, resentful, ready to fight, hoping he or she will get what we think is coming to them.

These desires James is addressing are insistent, belligerent desires. They're ready to wage war and battle within us. He uses military imagery--armed soldiers getting ready for a bitter battle to get what they want. We have an innate, self-centered readiness to fight to get our own way. We desire and covet--want something someone else has, but we do not have it and are very upset. So we're ready to fight, quarrel, damage, demolish and even destroy those who we think are keeping us from getting what we want.

So if and when I am upset with others, I must know, according to James, that the problem is with me and not the other person. I can easily blame others because "they said this," "they said that," "they are doing this," "they are doing that." But if I honestly search my own heart, I should find that what they're saying or doing is preventing me from getting what I desire--be it commendation, recognition, a good reputation, to be accepted, honored, respected and esteemed, to have a position of power and privilege and influence, etc, but then someone else in the church (or at work or in school or even at home) is getting it instead of me. Therefore, search my heart to see if the reason I am upset is because I "desire but do not have... (I) covet but (I) cannot get what (I) want, so (I) quarrel and fight" (Jas 4:1-2a).

Second, we have stopped trusting God to be good to us. We don't believe God is going to give us every good thing. So we think that we have to go get the good thing ourselves. We no longer wait or depend on him as the one who can and will provide. James says, "You do not have because you do not ask God. ³ When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures" (Jas 4:2b-3).

James says we fail to pray when we do not trust in God's goodness and in God's provision for us. Or that we do not believe that God's riches and love are infinite and inexhaustible, beyond imagination. We often also ask with wrong motives. A wrong motive invariably puts our own desires above God. Our prayer is not because of an honest seeking of God, but is a selfish demand that disregards God's will, God's plan, God's purpose and God's sovereignty. We ask for what we want instead of what God wants for us, which will always be better by far. 

Third, we become adulterous. When we turn from trusting in God's goodness and provision, we invariably end up embracing the world--we enter into a friendship with the world by employing the world's methods which always looks out for number one. James concludes with words drawn from the language of love and politics: "You adulterous people, don't you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God" (Jas 4:4).

We are the bride of Christ, but we have gone into the arms of another. We become like an adulterous husband or wife who says to their spouse, "You're not adequate, you aren't satisfying me. What you're giving me is not enough. I'm going to find love and intimacy somewhere else." We become an enemy of God. Faced with pressures and trials, we adop the world's way of handling them--lashing out a fellow believers, quarreling and fighting with them, failing to bring the matter before God, and instead aligning ourselves with a sinful culture's way of doing things.

What is the cure? What hope do we have to overcome our adulterous tendency?

Our hope lies in God's unshakable commitment to keep us intimate with him. This is his overwhelming grace. God is a jealous lover who simply will not let us go, and he will enable us to stay close to him:

Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us? ⁶ But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:

"God opposes the proud
    but shows favor to the humble" (Jas 4:5-6).

When we are adulterous and do not trust God, God's response is a fresh infusion of even more and greater grace to keep us connected to him. He will not let us remain in a hostile relationship with him, but will jealously woo us back to have an intimate relationship with him.

If necessary, he will use the negative pressure of opposing us if we continue our prideful behavior and our drift into the world's arms. But he will also give increasing grace if we turn in humble submission to him by accepting that our circumstances are difficult for the time being, but believing that he is working through them for our good (Jas 1:2-4, 12).

James quotes the OT that God is actively repelling the proud and advancing the humble he is curing the one and blessing the other:

"The Lord's curse is on the house of the wicked,
    but he blesses the home of the righteous.
³⁴ He mocks proud mockers
    but shows favor to the humble and oppressed" (Prov 3:33-34).

God's grace is truly amazing because though we stumble, fail, sin and become adulterous, God "gives us more grace" (Jas 4:6a).

The Wise and the Bitter (James 3:13-18)

Who is one who is not wise, and the one you should not listen to? Briefly, according to James, it is the one who thinks they are wise and are too quick to teach others (Jas 3:1)! How can one tell who they are? They often cannot control their tongue and they blame others. Those who desire to teach others and who see the fault in others but none in themselves are the ones who should learn to simply shut their mouth!

• Trials are Beneficial: Overview of James.

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1. Horrible Days (Jas 1:1-4). The Way to Maturity and Wholeness.
2. How to Know What's Going On (Jas 1:5-12). A Prayer that God is Always Happy to Answer.
3. When Trials Become Temptations (Jas 1:13-21). God Never Tempts Anyone.
4. Self-Deceived Christians (Jas 1:22-27). When Reading and Studying the Bible Makes You Worse.
5. Showing Favoritism (Jas 2:1-13). Trust God rather than show favoritism toward influential people.
6. True Faith = Loving Deeds (Jas 2:14-26). True faith is always expressed through deeds of love for others, regardless of what trial we may be personally going through. [Loving others--amid our own difficulties and trials--always accompanies true faith.]
7. Lashing Out Verbally at Others (Jas 3:1-12). If you think you have to teach others, it's better to just shut up!
   

Whom should we listen to in a time of trial? To whom should we look to for guidance? How can we recognize the one who will have God's wisdom in the matter? That is the question James raises, "Who is wise and understanding among you?" (Jas 3:13a)?

To be wise and understanding means to know both where to go and how to get there, which direction is right and what specific steps should be taken? To be wise is to know the goal God wants. To be understanding is to know how to reach it. How can we recognize such a person?

His summary answer to his question: "Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom" (Jas 1:13).

Wise and understanding people are marked by gentle humility. They are quietly at ease with themselves. They do not act like they know the answer to every question. They are not quick to make speeches, offer solutions or teach others (Jas 3:1). They are not ego-driven as though they have something to prove. [Grace means that one has nothing to prove.] There is also evidence of quiet tangible deeds done for for the welfare and benefit others, without drawing attention to it.

James expands on his summary answer by explaining more fully whom one should not listen to (Jas 3:14-16) and then describes more specifically the godly qualities of the person we should listen to (Jas 3:17-18).

We should not listen to the person who (Jas 3:14-16):

• is jealous and envious of the success, influence and good reputation of others
• seems to be ego-involved and ego-driven
• is boastful and lacking in humility.

Such people are going after a victory or going after being right, often speaking half-truths, rather than being are after truth (Jas 3:14b). They cannot claim to have God's wisdom and their words ("wisdom") "does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic" (Jas 3:15). They inadvertently produce discord and disorder, gossip, backbiting and slander, polarization, disharmony and "taking sides" and wild assumptions and accusations in the church (Jas 3:16), rather than promoting love, grace, peace and unity. Do not listen to such a person.

Instead, listen to the gentle, humble person whose motives are pure and whose words continually produce peace within the congregation (Jas 3:17). Listen to the person who has:

• nothing to prove (no ego involvement)
  
• nothing to gain (no agenda or ulterior motives)
• whose life demonstrates the fruit of the Spirit
• whose action brings peace

To bring peace, one who is in a dominant position exercises restraint in the use of authority, and is considerate toward those who are less dominant, while those who are in the subordinate position express an attitude of submissiveness. One who is considerate overlook the small faults of others and give credit for their character over the long haul. Being submissive, they are not difficult to lead or persuade, but quietly and easily join in with others. Their whole life is "full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere" (Jas 3:17b), investing their lives for the welfare and benefit of others who are less fortunate than themselves (Jas 1:27). They are impartial, not choosing or favoring one side or person over another, and sincere, not flattering or pretending in order to gain some benefit.

Listening to a gentle, humble person brings forth peace and "a harvest of righteousness" (Jas 3:18b).

Lashing Out Verbally at Others (James 3:1-12)

Lacking tongue control: "If anyone makes no mistakes in what they say, such a person is a fully complete human being, capable of keeping firm control over the whole body as well" (Jas 3:2b, N.T. Wright). "Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check" (Jas 3:2b, NIV). "For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way" (Jas 3:2b, NLT).

Theme: If you cannot control your mouth, don't teach the Bible to others. Definitely, don't teach others the Bible if you are blaming others for problems and difficulties. Don't be in Christian leadership if you have a habit of lashing out at others. For the easiest way to sin, the most common, and the hardest sin to prevent, is with the tongue.

• Trials are Beneficial: Overview of James.
  

1. Horrible Days (Jas 1:1-4), or The Way to Maturity and Wholeness.
2. How to Know What's Going On (Jas 1:5-12), or A Prayer that God is Always Happy to Answer.
3. When Trials Become Temptations (Jas 1:13-21), or God Never Tempts Anyone.
4. Self-Deceived Christians (Jas 1:22-27), or When Reading and Studying the Bible Makes You Worse.
5. Showing Favoritism (Jas 2:1-13), Trust God rather than show favoritism toward influential people.
6. True Faith = Loving Deeds (Jas 2:14-26), or True faith is always expressed through deeds of love for others, regardless of what trial we may be personally going through. [Loving others--amid our own difficulties and trials--always accompanies true faith.]

If you are an actor and you are able blow up convincingly and chew others out with zeal, zest and gusto, you will likely be nominated for an Academy Award, or a Golden Globe award or an Emmy. Letting it all hang out and lashing out at others from the depth of our being with intensity and passion resonates with us, because we wish that we could do the same with people whom we believe deserve a tongue lashing.

But what does James say about a Christian and how he or she uses his or her tongue? "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be" (Jas 3:9-10).

In 3:1-10, James is speaking very strongly about Christians having control over their tongue. He is well aware that we Christians "stumble in many ways" (Jas 1:2a), especially when we open our mouth. He says matter of factly that "no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison" (Jas 3:8).

So why is it that all people, including Christians have such poor (or no) control over their tongue and with the things they say, which often becomes like deadly poison?

All sincere Christians know that we should be "quick to listen" (to God and others) and "slow to speak" (words of doubt, cursing and slander) (Jas 1:19, 6, 13; 3:9; 4:11). So we know that we should be "self-controlled"--a fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:23). But as we should well know will power alone is greatly limited in the Christian life, for the flesh is weak. The power a Christian needs is not mere will power but the power of God (Rom 1:16; 1 Cor 1:18). Yes, we need to use our will power, choices and decisions we make to work our our salvation (Phil 2:12b), but more than that we need to learn to be subject and submitted to what God is doing in us (Phil 2:13). Then we should be able to "keep (our) whole body in check" (Jas 3:2b), including our wild restless tongue that can be full of evil and poison (Jas 3:8).

Jas 3:1 have often been explained incorrectly as a warning against becoming a Bible teacher in the local church. But this is contrary to all the biblical passages which speak highly of Bible teachers. They are among God's gifts to the church (Rom 12:7; 1 Cor 12:28; Eph 4:11). Paul tells Timothy to entrust his teachings to "entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others" (2 Tim 2:2).

Jas 3:1, therefore, have nothing to do with teaching the Bible, Scripture or doctrine. Instead, his warning is against presuming to teach others how they should act so that they do not add to the stresses and hardships that the rest of the church is facing. It is a warning against presuming to instruct/teach others as to how they can stop causing trials for the rest of us. James is continuing the theme of how to act in trials (Jas 1:2ff), how to act when we face difficult and stressful situations.

In context James is writing to Jewish Christians who are facing different kinds of trials. They were driven from their homes and cities and have been scattered in different localities and countries (Jas 1:1b). The local Gentiles despise them because they are Jews, and the local Jews despise them because they are Christians. They're resented and discriminated against. It's one trial after another. The purpose of James' whole letter is to tell them how to deal with trials which are beneficial. Dealing with trials is the focus of the whole book of James.

James begins by saying that horrible trials should be counted as pure joy because through them we become patient, mature and complete, not lacking anything (Jas 1:2-4), as long as we don't become angry with God and blame him for our trial (Jas 1:13). James also encourages us to love others during the trials (Jas 1:17)--impartially and tangibly (Jas 2:1, 16)--for this will reveal a genuine trusting faith that will always be expressed through loving and caring deeds for others (Jas 2:8, 18b).

James' next point is that when we are going through trials we must avoid being infected or polluted by how the world would do things (Jas 1:27b). We must not adopt the world's attitudes and coping mechanisms. James emphasizes this from chapter 3 to 5: do not talk or act as the world would talk and act during a trial.

In the last three chapters James mentions the world frequently. He speaks about how the world gets into us, how the world's wisdom is the opposite from God's wisdom. He warns against friendship with the world. His continual emphasis is: Don't let the world's way of doing things influence what you say or how you act in the midst of a painful and difficult trial.

James 3 suggests that a typical way someone in the world reacts to a trial is to ream out others who they think are contributing to the group's difficulties by their actions and choices, lashing out against others with disapproval and angry reactions and advice about how bad and wrong they are, which they are convinced adds to the stress and hardships they are encountering. James says this because sometimes our trials may indeed be due to the behavior of other Christians. Sometimes the actions of other believers, though well meaning, can cause difficulties for others in the church.

In churches with a strongly authoritarian hierarchical culture, people in the church are more or less expected to "tow the party line." Recently, a Baptist leader was suggesting to Baptists in his keynote speech that if they consider themselves Reformed and embrace Calvinism, they should consider leaving the Baptist church and joining Presbyterian churches instead. I seriously wonder how well his public teaching was received (cf. Jas 3:1). Some churches insist on conforming strictly to the word according to certain propositional statements and enforcing it on others, while others churches insist on charismatic expression at the expense of sound biblical teaching. Does such teaching unite the church? During times of trials and difficulties should we not learn how to embrace our differences rather than aggravate and accentuate them?

The recent elections certainly seemed to have brought out the worst in Americans, both the non-churched and even the churched. Those who voted Republican laughed at Democrats for being cry babies and sore losers, white those who voted Democrat accused Republicans of being racist, sexist, xenophobic, islamophobic and homophobic. What should we do during such a seemingly national crisis. Someone noted that in 2001 there was 9/11, and in 2016 there is election day 11/9! Should both sides blame the other side and try to teach the other side how wrong they are??

Christians sadly add to the trials and stresses of life, since our tendency is to tell others to "shape up, get smart." But James says, "Don't be quick to instruct, teach and tell others what they ought to do or should have done. Don't presume that you can be a teacher to them" (Jas 3:1). Why?

James says that we should not presume to be teachers because it is too likely that we will sin with out words and stumble with our tongues. Then in the process of telling others what to do, we sin against them and incur God's judgment (Jas 3:1b). The only people who should become teachers in such situations are those who are in control of all other areas of their own lives (Jas 3:2). Only the person who can avoid stumbling or sinning with their tongue is perfect--perfect in the sense of spiritually mature, complete (Jas 1:4)--someone who is already close to what God wants us to be--someone who is able to keep their whole body in check (Jas 3:2), someone who is in control of all areas of their life, and therefore able to control their tongue. That is a level of maturity that not many have.

In 3:3-12 James explains and expands on what he means in more detail. Because it is so likely that we will sin with our tongues, we should avoid teaching others until we see a consistent maturity in our own lives and an ability to control all areas of our life. He develops four thoughts, four statements:

1. When we are in control of our tongues, we can accomplish great things (3-5a). Something very small, if controlled, can accomplish great things whether one is a leader, mother, teacher, spouse.
2. But when we are not in control of our tongues, we can cause great damage (5b-6). The world's evil sinful way of handling stress and trials is to abuse others with the tongue our of personal frustration and exasperation. One little wrong word can corrupt the whole body and set the whole course of one's life on a destructive path (Jas 3:6).
3. Unfortunately, the sad truth is that very few of us have the necessary control (7-8). Though to some degree we might be able control our diet, TV watching, wasting time, bad habits, etc, few are able to truly control their tongue. Sadly, we can train our animals and our pets more than our own tongue (Jas 3:7-8). As long as there is inconsistency in us and in our speech (and emails and social media) we are in no position to teach others and tell them what to do (Jas 3:1).
4. Therefore, because of the danger that we will sin with our tongues, we should not teach others until our own lives demonstrate a godly consistency and spiritual maturity (9-12). We should first search our own hearts and make sure our lives demonstrate a godly consistency and spiritual maturity--especially when no one is watching. As there is consistency in nature (Jas 3:11-12), there must be godly consistency in Christians, when we allow the trials we are encountering to produce the fruit that God intends (Jas 1:2-4).

James' caution is this: When the behavior of some in the church is causing difficulties for others, you should not try to teach and correct others (Jas 3:1). The chances are too great that you will sin and damage others. The only people who should teach others in such difficult trials are those who are consistently in control of all areas of their lives.

Faith During Trials and Loving Deeds (James 2:14-26)

• Trials are Beneficial: Overview of James.
  

1. Horrible Days (Jas 1:1-4), or The Way to Maturity and Wholeness.
2. How to Know What's Going On (Jas 1:5-12), or A Prayer that God is Always Happy to Answer.
3. When Trials Become Temptations (Jas 1:13-21), or God Never Tempts Anyone.
4. Self-Deceived Christians (Jas 1:22-27), or When Reading and Studying the Bible Makes You Worse.
5. Showing Favoritism (Jas 2:1-13), Trust God rather than show favoritism toward influential people.
   

How can we know if our faith during our trying times and troubling trials will bring forth the blessing of God which James calls "a crown of life" (Jas 1:12)? There is a way to know whether your faith is alive and vital, and will see you through the trial to the good end that God intends (Jas 1:4). Here's how you know. Very simply, James says that your loving deeds toward others reveal a liging faith. Your loving acts of compassion and mercy show that you have a genuine trusting faith that will see you through the trials to God's reward.  Read James 2:14-17.

When one is in an ongoing painful trial, our faith may be sorely tested to persevere as our expression to trust God (Jas 1:2-3). When we trust God during times of difficulty James says that Christians must "keep a tight reign on their tongues" (Jas 1:26), instead of cursing others who we think may be contributing to our trial (Jas 3:9-10) and slandering fellow believers whom we disagree with (Jas 3:11).

Also during times painful trials, James says that we must act lovingly toward the most unfortunate and needy in our community (Jas 1:27a) and to not be tempted to solve our difficult trials by using the ways of the world (Jas 1:27b), such as lashing out against others who we think are aggravating our difficulties (3:1-4:12) and accumulating wealth to solve our problems (4:13-5:6).

Faith during the trial. When James asks, "Can such faith save them?" (Jas 2:14), he is not speaking about your eternal salvation. He's looking at being taken safely through your trials, being delivered from sinning during your prolonged troubles. James had earlier said to "humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you" (Jas 1:21), meaning that God's Word would safely guide you through temptation; it would save or deliver you from becoming angry with God and blaming him (Jas 1:13). Similarly, here James is looking at the quality or nature of your faith that will safely take you through your trials.

Faith that God is working good through your trial. The faith James has in mind is not faith in Jesus Christ as Savior. Rather it is the vital trusting faith that humbly submits to what God is doing, and as a result will stand the test and receive the reward (Jas 1:2-4, 12).

The evidence that we have the kind of faith that will safely take us through our trials to God's good reward is by doing good deeds of love and compassion for others (Jas 1:27a) and by not showing favoritism (Jas 2:1). But our faith is dead if it is not accompanied by good deeds of love for others (Jas 1:17), because we are to self-preoccupied with our own difficulties during our trial that we do not love enough to care and bother with the trials that others may be similarly going through. What use is such a claim of having faith when we ignore the pain and distress of other fellow believers (Jas 2:15-16), who are in the category of "orphans and widows in their distress" (Jas 1:27a).

A faith divorced from tangible acts of mercy and compassion expressed toward others is insufficient to take us safely through our own trials. Thus, James says twice that such a loveless faith is dead and useless (Jas 1:17, 20).

The greatest command in Scripture--"the royal law found in Scripture" (Jas 1:8)--is to love. There is no situation in life where God says that this command can be ignored or voided. So even if one is going through painful trials, God expects Christians to love others, especially the weakest and the most vulnerable (Jas 1:27a), even if it costs us and even to our own potential loss. Loving others may be the way that we persevere through our own painful trials and become mature and whole in the process (Jas 1:2-4).

Then James imagines an objection (Jas 2:18a) that it is possible to have faith that God is working through trials and not have loving deeds for others. James' response is to offer three biblical examples to prove the necessary connection between faith and deeds--that unless faith in God's working is accompanied by tangible acts of love, it is a meaningless, dead faith.

1. A negative example (Jas 2:18b-19). Demons believe in God but never have good deeds of love.
2. A positive example with Abraham (Jas 2:20-24; Gen 15:1-6; Genesis 22). Abraham's "faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did" (Jas 2:22). This living faith carried Abraham safely through the years to the "crown of life" (Jas 1:12) that he receive the honor of being called God's friend (2 Chron 20:7; Isa 41:18).
3. A positive example with Rahab (Jas 2:25-26).

Loving deeds do indeed prove the reality of one's faith that God is good and that God intends good for us through this painful trial. Our concrete acts may not be as dramatic as Abraham's or Rahab's, but they can still demonstrate a living faith that I trust God enough to obey the royal law found in Scripture by loving others.

Reference:

1. Sunukjian, Donald R. Invitation to James: Persevering through Trials to Win the Crown.
2. Preaching James by Don Sunukjian (40 minutes). 

Showing Favoritism (James 2:1-13)

1. Trials are Beneficial: Overview of James.
2. Horrible Days (Jas 1:1-4), or The Way to Maturity and Wholeness.
3. How to Know What's Going On (James 1:5-12), or A Prayer that God is Always Happy to Answer.
4. When Trials Become Temptations (James 1:13-21), or God Never Tempts Anyone.
5. Self-Deceived Christians (James 1:22-27), or When Reading and Studying the Bible Makes You Worse.
   

If you see a pretty girl and an unattractive girl at two ends of the room, which end do you casually gravitate toward? If you see a rich cool guy who is funny and friendly and a poor nerdy guy who is awkward with shabby clothes who would you charm up to? If you meet a person who can possibly benefit you and your church and a person who looks like they will be a drain to you and your church, which person would you extend more grace to?

Such are the questions that James is posing in his letter to the church that had been scattered (Jas 1:1b) and undergoing persecution, painful trials and hardships (Jas 1:2, 12). James presents two contrasting visitors to their church, one who is rich with a gold ring and fine clothes and one who is poor in filthy old clothes (Jas 2:2). The first visitor is a man of wealth and influence--the kind of man who could get you a job, benefit you with favors, and help resolve some of the many painful trials you are encountering (Jas 1:2). The second visitor is poor and unknown, a little unkempt and wearing clothes with odor of sweat still lingering. So of the two, which one do you go to? Which one do you give attention to?

James says, "If you show special attention to the man wearing fine clothes and say, 'Here's a good seat for you,' but say to the poor man, 'You stand there' or 'Sit on the floor by my feet...'" (Jas 2:3-4) James' response to such partial behavior is, "My brothers and sisters, believers in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ must not show favoritism" (Jas 2:1). Do not pay attention to people based on what they can do for you. Do not treat them differently based on what you might get from them. Be absolutely impartial. Love them equally.

Why does James stress this? Why does James want us to be as ready to love the poor man (who can do nothing for you) as the rich man (who might benefit you)? To be as quick to pay attention to the insignificant as well as the influential? Why is it so important that we love impartially, without thought of gain?

To say, "This is the Christian thing to do," is not incorrect, but does not go deep enough. James probes and searches our hearts as he reveals four penetrating reasons why it's so important that we love impartially and without thought of personal gain:

1. You show your deep trust in God--that he is the one who controls your circumstances, that he's the one who determines your future, not the rich and influential of this world. You show your unshakable certainty and conviction that good things ultimately come from God, not men. "Discriminated" (Jas 2:4) is the same word as "doubted" (Jas 1:5-6). Doubting, discriminating: the same word, meaning vacillating, wavering, making distinctions. If you discriminate (show favoritism) in your love, you reveal your doubts about whether God is in control. You begin to judge the situation with evil thoughts that I need to make sure things happen the way I want and prefer, rather than let God take care of the trial and the difficult situation.
2. You show your wisdom about people--that it's often the poor who have the deepest walk with God. When you love impartially, it's because you know that the poor are very often the ones who are most fully centered on God, whereas the rich often have no use for God in their lives (Jas 2:5-7).
3. It shows your submission to Scripture, that you will obey it to the fullest extent. To obey the command to love, which is the supreme command--the royal law found in Scripture (Jas 2:8), you show your willingness to obey all of God's commands. This is the supreme command means that this means the most to our King, and that this is the greatest law that he gave, the law that says, "Love your neighbor as yourself." So if you break this law, you're broken all of them (Jas 2:9-11).
4. It shows your dependence on God's grace, that you need his mercy toward you to be greater than his judgment on you. To show mercy toward others, to love them without making judgments about how deserving or not they are is to acknowledge that I too want God's mercy toward me to be greater than, stronger than, his judgment on me (Jas 2:12-13).

Among God's people in the church, there is no favoring one over another. There should only be impartial love.

Self-Deceiving Christians (James 1:22-27)

"But be people who do the word, not merely people who hear it and deceive themselves" (James 1:22, N.T. Wright).

"Mirror, mirror on the wall..." What do you see when you look in the mirror? Beautiful eyes? Fantastic flowing hair? A look to die for? A cool tough masculine look? Some facial hair to enhance your manliness? Or do you see a balding hairline, wrinkles, crow feet and sagging bags under your eyes?

1. Overview of James: Trials are Beneficial.
   
2. Horrible Days (Jas 1:1-4) or The Way to Maturity and Completeness.
   
3. How to Know What's Going On (James 1:5-12) or A Prayer that God is Happy to Answer.
   
4. When Trials Become Temptations (James 1:13-21) or God Never Tempts Anyone.
   

What do you do after you see what's in the mirror? In my case, since I'm balding, I decided to shave off all of my hair so that it gives the impression that I am not as bald as I actually am. I acted based on what I saw.

James makes a similar point. The Word of God is like a mirror, he says. Seeing what is says, listening to it, hearing the Word of God is not enough. It's doing it that brings the blessing we want. If all we do is listen to the Word, but we don't do what it says, we're then simply fooling ourselves if we think that blessings will come to us. What we want out of life--love, joy, peace, wholeness--comes only when we actually do what Scripture says. Jesus said so (Jn 14:15, 21, 23). Isaiah said so (Isa 56:1). Micah said so (Mic 6:8). Deuteronomy says so repeatedly (Dt 6:1-3).

James is writing to former members of his congregation who are going through some tough times, some difficult trials, some horrible days with uncertain futures. He encourages them to persevere during those painful trails because God wants to bring good to their lives (Jas 1:2-4) and be like one who has received a crown and a wreath (Jas 1:12). But for this to happen they should not allow their trial to become a temptation to sin (Jas 1:13). Next, and most importantly, they must act according to what the Word says, and not merely listen to it (Jas 1:22).

James says that the Word of God is like a mirror that tells you what you need to do (Jas 1:23-25). It's the perfect law that sets you free and brings blessing from God (Jas 1:25). The law is not advice. It is not a suggestion. It is not one possible option. It is "the perfect law" that comes from God. It is mandatory and non-negotiable, though we are free to make light of it, ignore it, disobey it, or regard it as negotiable. But if we do, the consequences of not obeying the law will be inevitable.

How does obeying the Word of God give freedom and bring blessing?

When I obey the law and love my wife (Eph 5:25), there is tremendous freedom and overflowing blessing in our marriage over the last 35 years since we married in 1981. When I obey the law to be gentle (Phil 4:5; Prov 25:15)--with repeated failure--God awakens me to how constantly ungentle I am. In 1980 soon after conversion, when I struggled to obey the law to seek first his kingdom (Mt 6:33), I have indeed experienced "all these things" freely given to me, none of which I deserve. When I obey the law and testify primarily to the grace of God (Ac 20:24), God delivered me from legalism and inflexibility over non-essentials, such as particular dress codes and particular religious practices and traditions, which have unfortunately become a sort of tribal law, but not the perfect law that gives freedom.

Not doing what the word of God says might be the greatest self-deception of religious people and legalistic Christians (Jas 1:22).

Ask yourselves/myself, What does the mirror of God's word tell you about:

• the condition of your heart?
• your friendships and relationships?
• your finances and giving?
• your love and concern for the well-being and blessing of others?
• what you truly love...God or someone/something else?

In Jas 1:25-27, James concludes the first section and previews the next section of his letter. If we consider ourselves religious--i.e., seriously committed to God as a Christ-follower who is eager to obey his word (Jas 1:22), then we should:

• control how we speak [email or blog or twitter] (Jas 1:26; 3:1-12).
• love the most unfortunate and needy among us (Jas 1:27a) by not showing favoritism (Jas 2:1-13).
• avoid the world's polluting ways of handling trials and difficulties (Jas 1:27b; chs. 3-5: Jas 3:6, 15-16; 4:4).

When those outside the church are faced with stress, trials, hardships and difficulties, their typical response is to lash out against those they think are causing them distress (3:1-4:12) and they attemjpt to insulate themselves from futher trouble by accumulating wealth (4:13-5:6). Christ-followers should avoid the world's polluting behaviors of blaming others and finding worldly security by trusting God to bless us and complete us (Jas 1:4).

When we trust God during our horrible days and painful trials we will keep his word (Jas 1:22) and receive the crown of life, which is blessing on earth, which is maturity and wholeness (Jas 1:4).

When Trials Become Temptations (James 1:13-21)

"Nobody being tested should say, 'It's God that's testing me,' for God cannot be tested by evil, and he himself tests nobody" (James 1:13, N.T. Wright).

James has written that we should consider trials as pure joy (Jas 1:1-4). Horrible days are simply God working in us to produce patience and perseverance until we come to maturity and completeness (Jas 1:2-4), until we are "conformed to the image of his Son" (Rom 8:29). If we're not sure what's going on (Jas 1:5-12), James tells us that there is a prayer that God is always happy to answer (Jas 1:5). But there is one condition (Jas 1:6): we must trust that he is good and not doubt his goodness by blaming stupid people around us.

The key in trials is to persevere (Jas 1:3). We need to patiently believe that God is working in us to bring forth maturity and completeness (Jas 1:4). But suppose, instead of persevering, we get weary of the trial. Suppose we get tired of how long it's been going on. We get frustrated, impatient, angry, bitter. Then in our frustration we end up doing something wrong. We sin.

We're frustrated when some in the church do not seem able to control their tongue and blame others (Jas 3:9), nor to stop gossiping and slandering others (Jas 4:11; Gal 5:15). We're frustrated that some Christians in the church seem to be proud, egotistical and arrogant and sometimes seemingly even more so than non-Christians (cf. Jas 4:6). We're frustrated if our church does not seem to be maturing in Christ or making progress in the spiritual disciplines and so are not that much different from people in the world, who are driven by money and ambition (Jas 4:13).

We're frustrated that we're in a dead end job, that our future doesn't seem that bright, that the election results just made the world darker, that we're single with zero prospects and nothing on the horizon, that we're lonely and depressed on many days, that it's too hard to overcome porn, that others are sleeping around and having sex while we're not, that I can't keep my purity for much longer, that we don't seem to have any real friends that we can trust and be able to freely talk to. The list is endless. In short, I'm sick and tired of waiting!

Is God testing us? Is God stringing us out to see how long we can go before we break, before we blow up in anger, or be done with purity? Is God testing us through the trial to see how long we'll go before we give up or give in? Is God tempting us to see whether we'll sin or not?

James quickly and categorically says that the temptation is NOT from God (Jas 1:13). God is NOT tempting you to see whether or not you'll sin. God is never tempted to do evil, and he never tempts anyone else to do evil. God never has anything to do with evil in any way at all. God never struggles with evil, and he would never cause anyone else to struggle with it. God is never enticed by evil, and he would never put evil in front of others to see whether they'd do it. Wherever that temptation is coming from, it's not coming from God!

So where is it coming from? What is the source of the temptation? James says that it is coming from somewhere inside us (Jas 1:14). Some self-centered desire within us is causing the temptation. Something we want very much for ourselves rises to the surface, and then an evil way to get it pops into our mind. And if we don't deal immediately with the evil thought, it gets a firmer grip on us and we find ourselves moving in the direction of sin. The evil thought takes over and grows, entices us and becomes more powerful and compelling until we finally act on it. The result is sin and devastation (Jas 1:15). It is invariably disastrous.

Dragged away like a fishhook is caught in our mouth and is pulling us. Enticed like an animal seeing something it wants, not realizing that it is a bait in a trap that will destroy him. What are some self-centered desires:

• I want more money.
• I want more recognition.
• I want more clout and influence in the church.
• I want to get married soon and enjoy romance and sex.
• I want more excitement.
• I want more friends.
• I want people to like me, include me and respect me.

None of these desires are necessarily bad or wrong in themselves. But if we let it linger, if we stew over it, it starts to take over our thinking, our choices, our decision making and eventually our entire life. "Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin" (Jas 1:15a).

We're obsessed and preoccupied with every conceivable opportunity to make more money. We say and do things to make ourselves look good in church. On dates, we ignore everything about the inner life of the other person and our primary focus is on somehow hooking the person to desire us and hopefully marry us so that we don't "live in sin."

The sin that was born, grows, and becomes an adult, dominating our life. Within a short time, this full-grown sin gives birth to something else--it gives birth to death. We start dying inside even though we are still living. A shriveling, sickening, deadening inside. We become disgusted with ourselves, how we're acting, what we're doing, we have a hard time looking at ourselves in the mirror, for the eye is the mirror to our soul. We're eaten away with guilt, we're fighting depression and despair, we're dying inside.

How can we guard ourselves from this happening to us? How do we keep the trial (for our good) from become a temptation (for our destruction)?

James gives us four steps:

1. Be absolutely convinced that God only has good for you with your trial (Jas 1:16-18).
2. Resist anger, listen and give thought to the good and wisdom that God wants to give you (Jas 1:19-20).
3. Recognize and repent of the source of the temptation: your self-centeredness (Jas 1:21a).
4. Come back to the word of God (Jas 1:21).

When going through a trial, hang on to the conviction that God is good (Jas 1:17) and he is doing something good in your life through the trial (Jas 1:2-4). Be quick to listen and look for the wisdom and good God wants to give you (Jas 1:19). Always know that any temptation to sin comes from some self-centeredness inside you (Jas 1:21a). And always humbly come to the Word of God (Jas 1:18, 21b). Center your life on loving the Word of God (Ps 119:105, 97; 1:2).

How To Know What's Going On (James 1:5-12)

(A Question that God is Always Happy to Answer)

"If any one of you falls short in wisdom, they should ask God for it, and it will be given them. God, after all, gives generously and ungrudgingly to all people. But they should ask in faith, with no doubts. A person who doubts is like a wave of the sea which the wind blows and tosses about. Someone like that should not suppose they will receive anything from the Lord, since they are double-minded and unstable in everything they do.

Brothers and sisters who find themselves impoverished should celebrate the fact that they have risen to this height -- and those who are rich that they are brought down low, since the rich will disappear like a wildflower. You see, the rich will be like the grass: when the sun rises with its scorching heat, it withers the grass so that its flower droops and all its fine appearance comes to nothing. That's what it will be like when the rich wither away in the midst of their busy lives.

God's blessing on the man who endures testing! When he has passed the test, he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him" (James 1:5-12, N.T. Wright).

In the first sermon, A Horrible Day (Jas 1:1-4) or The Way to Maturity and Completeness, James tells us that horrible days and hardships, trials and tribulations should be thought through thoroughly. We should count and consider them as something positive, even joyful, for that is God's way to bless us with what we truly need in life: perseverance (patience, endurance)--which in God's time will lead to maturity (perfection) and completeness, not lacking in anything.

Even Jesus was such a man who went through hell. He endured the cross and made light of its shame (Heb 12:2). As a result, he learned obedience from what he suffered (Heb 5:8) and became a source of blessing to all people (Heb 5:9).

This second sermon is How To Know What's Going On (James 1:5-12) or A Question that God is Always Happy to Answer. Here, James tells us what to do when we are not able to figure out what the heck is going on with us or with the world when we encounter hardship and difficulties, disappointments and despondency, trials and tribulations.

Today, we live in a generation of TMI--too much information. It is inundating, overwhelming and even paralyzing to have TMI coming from all four corners of the earth thrown at us every single day. So we feel the urge to know what's going on everywhere as much as possible. Yet we know that most of this information has little to no relevance to us whatsoever. Do we really need to know with much detail and speculation what is going on with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's divorce and their custody battle over their six children?? Do we need to know who Justin Bieber's latest girlfriend is, or that Prince Harry's latest girlfriend and possible wife is an American actress? Do we need to be obsessed with the Cubs in the off season before opening day 2017? There's just surely TMI "out there."

But there is one particular knowledge that is most crucial for all God's people to know. It is to know what God may be doing in our own hearts and lives. We need to prayerfully figure out what God's purpose and goal may be when we encounter situations in our life, both good and bad.

God often purposely does something in our lives to remove an area of immaturity or deficiency in us. He sends us certain trials or circumstances to work on something that is lacking in us. The trials are designed to make us more mature, fully complete in godliness and no longer lacking in any area (Jas 1:4). That's why James says that we should consider painful trials as "pure joy" (Jas 1:2, NIV), "all joy" (Jas 1:2, ESV) and "great joy" (Jas 1:2, HCSB).

As a result, this important question should be raised, "What is it in me that is immature or incomplete that God needs to work on? What am I lacking that he has to let me face this difficult trial?" So we live with some lingering feeling of not knowing what the heck is going on with us. So what should we do about not knowing what's going on?"

James says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you" (Jas 1:5, NIV).

This is not a promise for students to get an A after not studying or doing one's homework. This is also not a promise for wisdom in general. Rather, in keeping with the theme of James (trials and tribulations), this is a promise for wisdom about why your trial is occurring. If you don't know or are not sure what God is doing in your life, ask him. If you lack wisdom as to what area of your life God is trying to make more godly and Christlike, ask him. God is more than happy to always answer such questions generously!

"Generously" means that God will gladly give you what you need to know freely, quickly and without hesitation. God is delighted to do it. It's there just for the asking. That's how much God wants to answer you/me when we ask him about how and in what areas He wants us to mature and be more patient, godly and Christlike. God is open-handed. He wants to give us all the wisdom that we want to know about our present difficult trial.

God not only gives generously and openhandedly, but he also gives without making you feel bad in the process--he doesn't find fault (Jas 1:5). God doesn't want to make us feel bad that there's still some sin, some immaturity or lack of wholeness that needs addressing. No, God never finds fault, unlike we humans who seemingly love to find fault with others and regard them in the worst possible light.

Always ask God for wisdom about your trial. God will always give it generously, openhandedly amd without finding fault.

How does this work? How does God give us the wisdom we're asked for? How does he reveal what the trial is accomplishing?

Trials often involve a deteriorating relationship with another person in the church. We think that our problem (or needless trial) is because of something that someone else is saying or doing that affects us. But James says that it is because we want something, and we think that he or she is keeping us from having it (Jas 4:1-2a). We may want a big church, a thriving ministry, or at the very least a reputation as a respected and influential Christian. We're got all this pride and ambition and ego but someone else in the church is saying and doing things and is stopping it from happening. So God allows some other Christian to deal with our own pride, ambition and ego.

But for God to give us wisdom as to why our trial is happening there is one condition. We must come to ask Him with a trusting, believing heart (Jas 1:6-8). We must come convinced that whatever is happening, God is being good to us and we must not doubt at all that he is working good in our life. We must come with a gentle, yielded spirit (Mt 11:28-30).

If we want God's wisdom,we can't come with a quarrelsome, argumentative, rebellious, defiant, bitter attitude. If we doubt that God is doing something good through the trial, we'll not get an answer or a sense of direction. We'll never know what's going on, and we'll keep blaming others in the church and lash out in all directions--like a wave of the sea (Jas 1:6).

Double-minded (Jas 1:8) means that you're unable to decide whether the trial is God working on something in you (it always is!), or just the result of other stupid people. We must always settle in our mind that God is always working good in our life (Rom 8:28), and that he's in control of what's happening and that his goal is to bring you to maturity and completeness (Jas 1:4). We must never ever doubt that God is good (Jas 1:6), especially when we are going through some painful trial (Jas 1:2). We must trust God with a believing heart (Prov 3:5) and willingly hear God's wisdom and persevere with him until his good work is accomplished (Jas 1:3).

James goes on to give some examples of the kind of wisdom God will give in a trial: Someone who's gone a long time without having enough money (Jas 1:9a). What should they do? Be more impressed with the eternal riches that God has given them (Jas 1:9b). The next example is someone who's lost a lot of money recently (Jas 1:10). Instead of complaining about their declining and dwindling finances they should realize more deeply that it is what's done for eternity that matters. No matter how much one has or how rich one is, someday it will all disappear and perish (Jas 1:11).

Consider it pure joy whenver you're facing a trial (Jas 1:2). God is making you mature and complete (Jas 1:4), which is what we truly long to be whether we know it or not. God desires that we look more and more like his Son and receive the crown of life (Jas 1:12).

"The crown of life" is not eternal life. We don't get eternal life by persevering in a trial (Jas 1:3), but by faith in Christ as our Savior (Jn 3:16). The crown of life is what you receive as you move through the experiences of life. In the NT world, the crown was a garland of leaves that was placed on the victor's head, a circle of flowers on the head of the wedding couple, a lacework of gold that the king wore in his coronation parade. The crown meant that you were the center of admiring attention, that you were full of joy, and that everyone around you acknowledged that great fortune had come to your life.

The crown of life is what God is promising, if we will let him finish his good work in us!

Preaching James by Don Sunukjian (40 minutes).

A Horrible Day (James 1:1-4)

"James, a slave of God and of the Lord Jesus the Messiah (Christ), to the twelve dispersed (scattered) tribes: greetings.

My dear family, when you find yourselves tumbling into various trials and tribulations, learn to look at it with complete joy, because you know that, when your faith is put to the test, what comes out is patience (perseverance, endurance). What's more, you must let patience have its complete effect, so that you may be complete (mature, perfect) and whole, not falling short in anything" (James 1:1-4, N.T. Wright).

Theme of James: Persevere joyfully in trials because of God's reward and blessing (Jas 1:2-4, 12).

James wrote his letter to Christians who were facing very tough and difficult times, for they were persecuted and scattered among the nations after the death of Stephan (Acts 8:1; A.D. 34). So the entire letter of James focuses on the trials, hardships, difficulties and disappointments that they were encountering and experiencing.

How do you deal with a horrible day? What do you do when some horrible thing happens unexpectedly?

Surely, many of us have had to face a horrible day, or have encountered several horrible days over the years.

As a physician, I've had several unfortunate occasions of witnessing a patient receiving some very horrible news about their health. A senior citizen was informed that she had terminal lung cancer. A rich, young and very successful lawyer in the prime of his life was informed that he had esophageal cancer which was incurable and that he had four months to live. Needless to say, and understandably so, their response to the horrible news was one of sheer shock and palpable grief.

On Nov 9, 2016, when the election results came in and that Trump won and Hilary lost, it was a most horrible, even horrific day for half of our country. Their responses were understandably predominantly marked by both alternating grief and anger that seemingly permeated out entire nation.

In 2005, when I realized that I had lost over a million $$ to a conman (My Worst Sin: Losing $1 Million), it was a day that I can never forget. Yes, it vividly exposed my sin of pride and greed. But what was most agonizing to me was the amount of grief and pain and disappointment I brought to my wife and children.

What does James say to do "whenever you face trials of many kinds" (Jas 1:2, NIV) and when unexpected troubles come your way?

James' words are quite shocking, even painful, to read: "Consider it pure joy" (Jas 1:2, NIV), look at it with complete joy, "consider it an opportunity for great joy" (Jas 1:2, NLT), "Count it all joy" (Jas 1:2, ESV).

Are we supposed to say, "I'm so happy I have incurable terminal cancer!" If you voted for Hilary, do you say, "I'm so happy that Trump won!" In 2005, should I say, "I consider it all joy that I lost $1,000,000 and hurt my wife and family!" Are we to be masochists taking pleasure in pain? Is this some kind of psychological gimmick? Is this a case of "grin and bear it"? "Put on a happy face" and ignore the problem? Find "the silver lining"?

No, no, no! James says to consider it, count it, think your way through it. "Think things through thoroughly together!"

Why? Because God is making you what you long to be. Through this trial God is making you gentle and kind and stable and peaceful and trusting and loving. Through the trial he is making you wise and encouraging and pure and strong. Read James 1:3-4.

God's process of making you what you long to be—"mature and complete, not lacking anything" (Jas 1:4)—unfolds in two steps. First, the trial is designed to develop perseverance, stick-to-it resolve, endurance in your faith. Second, this perseverance, or hanging in there, will lead you to complete godliness and maturity. The first step is perseverance (endurance, patience)—submission to what God has brought, willingness to endure it as long as God intends, and not fighting or rebelling against him. And then, when perseverance has finished its work, when you're steadily enduring for as long as God intends, the results begin to show—maturity, completeness, Christlikeness.

Mature (perfect): that means fully grown, fully developed, fully godly—at the end of the process in full strength.

Complete: that means not lacking anything, having all the parts of godliness in place, with every area of life developed into Christlikeness, and not being deficient in any quality, not lacking in any grace or godly character.

That's a goal to be desired, that's a goal to arrive at: mature (perfect) and complete, not lacking anything.

How might that come about in your life?

If a sick patient with terminal cancer counts and considers (thinks through) their final limited days of life a "complete" joy, the quality of their life in their remaining days would be memorable and meaningful, rather than sad, sorrowful, dark and bitter.

If a Trump supporter counts and considers dejected Hilary supporters with sympathy and empathy, oh how this would promote love and unity far more than regarding them as sore losers and cry babies.

If a Hilary supporter counts and considers happy Trump supporters with joy rather than resentment and bitterness, our nation could begin to heal and truly become great.

If you are going through a really difficult and rough path in your own life and consider that as "perfect joy," you will become mature and complete, not lacking anything.